Letter to the Other Woman ---Part 3

Dear Other Woman(I use this lightly),

Well who knew we would ever see one another in the same place.  I have to wonder why a woman would find a man or a piece of man so attractive if he exhibits no signs of being a provider and protector of his own children.  This is your idea of a "stepfather" for your kids.  It seems to me based on your current situation and number of kids you keep looking in the wrong places.   Why would this piece of a man be allowed in my children's lives?  maybe that's just me being logical.   You flaunt this piece of a man around your kids as if he's the prize in the Cracker Jack box, really?   I'm embarrassed to know my children share his DNA.   To go as far as introducing this piece of a man as a new "son in law" is a joke considering this piece of a man is not even divorced.   I guess for you this is a minor technicality considering you were sending pictures of your genitalia on his cell phone while he and I were living under the same roof! 

You apparently don't understand how marriage or the divorce process works.  How would you?  For mature married individuals who plan on staying married, they typically do not entertain needy individuals like yourself.  Why? you may ask, well it's pretty simple a good provider of his family works hard to preserve what he has built and seeks to remain a powerful force for his family.  You probably will never understand this because you are in a relationship with someone who initiated your relationship based on lies and deceit.  There is no long term future in your messiness.   By all means, you can get married,  however the divorce must be final as we do not live in Utah or Nevada where polygamy is still practiced.   For those like myself on the edge of my seat waiting for the ink to be dry and the judge to finalize my divorce decree it is really not that simple.   In our wonderful state when you elect to buy "marital property" with someone you must first sell the marital property before a divorce is granted.  Option 2 is one party may buy the other party out to relinquish the other of any ownership or debt associated with the marital property.  I seriously doubt the other party can afford to buy me out.  When you want to interject what you believe is holding up the divorce, have your facts straight.   However you're only as knowledgeable as the information you receive and you're being fed lie after lie.  I'm sitting on the sidelines laughing at the foolishness and hoping one day real soon I will get my divorce decree in the mail.  In the meantime, I really hope you are thoroughly enjoying my SLOPPY SECONDS!
Free2bMe

When Dealing with a Liar!

It baffles me that when individuals get themselves into situations, why is it never their responsibility?  In order to make my divorce final, I had to petition the court to have the jointly titled house listed.  The first court date ended with having a judge granting 90 days to the other party to have me removed from the mortgage.  When the 90 days were up I was granted authority to list the house however the party was given another 15 days to attempt with removing me from the mortgage after showing up more than an hour late.  Why oh why, do people play with the justice system?

The other party was obviously directed to file an extension and was given a new court date.  In the interest of my original order, I appeared in court AGAIN!  This time it was apparent the judge was a little irritated with the other party as they were having selective memory on what the court granted earlier. 

After I took the stand to summarize the course of events over the last year, the other party attempted to represent himself.  I only ask why oh why!  When my attorney was asked what was left for the courts she asked that the other party be ordered to sign the agreement.

The other party was ordered by the judge to sign the agreement and he replied "No" so the judged ordered the other party again to sign the agreement and he replied "No".  The sheriff was summoned to take the party into custody at which time he decided to sign the agreement.

According to insignificant people, I was laughing in court which is a joke in itself.  For those who have appeared in front of a judge, a disruption in the courtroom is not allowed.  Therefore, it is interesting that all the cohorts are STUPID enough to believe I was allowed to be in hysterics in the courtroom.  What I do find interesting is the fact that people sit in court conversing while court is in session and it did nothing help their case.

I'm so glad that in light of the larger issues in this country right now people have the time and energy to entertain a pathetic, psychotic, dysfunctional and pathological liar!   If this individual's life was so happy why would you have the need to make up nonsense about me. 

Annoyed

It is unbelievable that a DIVORCE is held up based on someone else's IGNORANCE! 

Free2bMe

Judge/Order/Contempt----WTH!

When a judge signs an order at what point does a person take it serious?  The amount of time and legal fees spent due to someone's ignorance is mind boggling!  A judge gives you 90 days and then 10 days of relief which you use like it's a joke.  Now more time and energy for a contempt order, dam when does it stop!

Marital Property

Who knew that buying property together would lead to such a nightmare in the divorce process?  In my state of divorce filing,  any marital property needs to be dissolved before a divorce is finalized.   Now what issues does this present for being free of my past life.  There are are limited options, if one party is interested in keeping the property this party must refinance the loan(and hope you qualify) to remove the other party from the loan.  In light of the economic conditions in this country there are a number of homes in foreclosure which are mixed in with divorce proceedings. What happens if the house is in foreclosure?  This presents another pile of issues.  If the property is in foreclosure a reinstatement amount is calculated by the law firm handling the foreclosure file.   If one party is interested in maintaining the home, that party must pay the reinstatement amount and then refinance the loan(and hope you qualify) to remove the other party.  Lastly, selling the property and walking away is the ideal situation.  There is nothing ideal about divorce and typically one party is the crux to making this a smooth process.  I know see why pre-nups are soooooo important!

Free2bMe

Letter to the Other Woman---Part 1

Dear Other Woman:

I want to start by saying thanks for opening my eyes to the fact I deserve far better than what I received.  You may think this is a game of winners and losers and you are probably patting yourself on the back.  Kudos to you for giving yourself credit.   However I must put you on blast to recognize the  following.   All the things you may receive going forward were built on someone else helping your Boo get to where he is now- where that is I'm not quite sure.  Your boo's life is now filled with court dates, child support payments, judges, lawyers, dissolution of marital property and divorce papers.   Just so you know there is no going forward until your boo gets a divorce so any plans of getting married are pretty much on hold.  Please rest assure I am not the obstacle to the DIVORCE.   I'm so ready for this to be finalized.    Just so you know it is illegal to have more than one wife.    

While you may think your life is grand, just remember your relationship(for lack of a better word) is based on a lie.  If a man was lying to his wife to cover for you-chances are he was lying to you THEN and is still lying to you NOW.  I don't have those problems anymore, funny how things work!  No matter what you think you do better you can take no credit in providing what I worked hard to provide in my home and my genetic link to your BOO---our kids(who don't need anything from a jumpoff).   I may seem like a non issue but just remember he gets a monthly reminder that when you play you must pay!  Your position started off as a jumpoff you will never increase that rank.  All I can say is watch your back because KARMA is a B@#$%!  Another little side note, once a cheater always a cheater or  you'll be the cheater next.   No matter how it proceeds I'm looking forward to as Fantasia's new song goes- DOING ME!  Countdown to DIVORCE and a FABULOUS life!

Free2bme

Divorce in America

I wanted to establish a sounding board for releasing my daily quirps of being separated and preparing for divorce.  If there is such a thing as preparation.  The past few months have been filled with lawyers, courtrooms, mediators, custody agreements, parenting class, family law, parenting classes, judges, etc.  In spite of all of this I still manage to smile and savor all that life has to offer me despite my current circumstances.

Free2bMe