Thank You to my Soon to be Ex

This is my formal thank you letter to my soon to be ex!  I thought about this one day because it is senseless to waste time and energy missing someone who was never the one for you.   The past year has been an absolute roller coaster with  numerous court dates for child support and the civil case for the marital property. 

I find it interesting when people suggest you consider reconciliation without knowing the details of your relationship.   Also what defines a relationship in one home is definitely not the same in another home.   I say to emphasize reconciliation is not for everyone.  Personally, I believe that two people are better apart than together especially when children are involved.  A psychologist told me studies show it is better to raise children separately than in a home that is filled with tension.  Wow, can I high five her today. 

Although I have a few choice words for my soon to be ex (and the other woman) and his relationship with the other woman I will resort to say it here too and in person if the need arises(ha-ha).

First and foremost I want to thank you for being the most disrespectful male I have ever known in my life.   I really want to thank you for calling me b#$&*es in court(real classy!).  You have really shown how classless you are and the level of maturity you obviously lack.   Oh, the icing on the cake is when you compared me and the your jump off(left me thinking for real).  Despite all the business that needs to be handled- you went there!  This was by far your finest hour!  For a man to disrespect the woman he married and mother of his children in such a vile way truly shows your caliber.  Although you think your life is grand just think that your actions not only undo your selfish life but undo what existed as a family.  However, everyone has a different concept of family.   I especially want to thank all of your co-signers who sit by and cheer you on and applaud your actions.  When you are in a crunch(such as now) I hope they are standing by with their checkbooks open because that is what friends are for, right? 

The most exciting part of you being a soon be ex really means this is who you will be and should be.  You were never meant to be there for the long term.  It feels great to wake each day with the possibility of meeting someone who respects and loves me they way I deserve.   This is enough to never want to look back on dysfunction.  I also love the fact that I can instill in my daughter what the real love of a MAN feels like! 

Again, thank you for being a deceitful, despicable and disrespectful individual because my eyes are wide open to finding the Right One! 

Letter to the Other Woman---Part 1

Dear Other Woman:

I want to start by saying thanks for opening my eyes to the fact I deserve far better than what I received.  You may think this is a game of winners and losers and you are probably patting yourself on the back.  Kudos to you for giving yourself credit.   However I must put you on blast to recognize the  following.   All the things you may receive going forward were built on someone else helping your Boo get to where he is now- where that is I'm not quite sure.  Your boo's life is now filled with court dates, child support payments, judges, lawyers, dissolution of marital property and divorce papers.   Just so you know there is no going forward until your boo gets a divorce so any plans of getting married are pretty much on hold.  Please rest assure I am not the obstacle to the DIVORCE.   I'm so ready for this to be finalized.    Just so you know it is illegal to have more than one wife.    

While you may think your life is grand, just remember your relationship(for lack of a better word) is based on a lie.  If a man was lying to his wife to cover for you-chances are he was lying to you THEN and is still lying to you NOW.  I don't have those problems anymore, funny how things work!  No matter what you think you do better you can take no credit in providing what I worked hard to provide in my home and my genetic link to your BOO---our kids(who don't need anything from a jumpoff).   I may seem like a non issue but just remember he gets a monthly reminder that when you play you must pay!  Your position started off as a jumpoff you will never increase that rank.  All I can say is watch your back because KARMA is a B@#$%!  Another little side note, once a cheater always a cheater or  you'll be the cheater next.   No matter how it proceeds I'm looking forward to as Fantasia's new song goes- DOING ME!  Countdown to DIVORCE and a FABULOUS life!

Free2bme