Letter to the Other Woman---Part 1

Dear Other Woman:

I want to start by saying thanks for opening my eyes to the fact I deserve far better than what I received.  You may think this is a game of winners and losers and you are probably patting yourself on the back.  Kudos to you for giving yourself credit.   However I must put you on blast to recognize the  following.   All the things you may receive going forward were built on someone else helping your Boo get to where he is now- where that is I'm not quite sure.  Your boo's life is now filled with court dates, child support payments, judges, lawyers, dissolution of marital property and divorce papers.   Just so you know there is no going forward until your boo gets a divorce so any plans of getting married are pretty much on hold.  Please rest assure I am not the obstacle to the DIVORCE.   I'm so ready for this to be finalized.    Just so you know it is illegal to have more than one wife.    

While you may think your life is grand, just remember your relationship(for lack of a better word) is based on a lie.  If a man was lying to his wife to cover for you-chances are he was lying to you THEN and is still lying to you NOW.  I don't have those problems anymore, funny how things work!  No matter what you think you do better you can take no credit in providing what I worked hard to provide in my home and my genetic link to your BOO---our kids(who don't need anything from a jumpoff).   I may seem like a non issue but just remember he gets a monthly reminder that when you play you must pay!  Your position started off as a jumpoff you will never increase that rank.  All I can say is watch your back because KARMA is a B@#$%!  Another little side note, once a cheater always a cheater or  you'll be the cheater next.   No matter how it proceeds I'm looking forward to as Fantasia's new song goes- DOING ME!  Countdown to DIVORCE and a FABULOUS life!

Free2bme

Infidelity

I think what pissed me off the most was the way in which this was handled.  It is never pretty when you discover has betrayed you and in some ways you feel a bit embarassed since you are normally the last to know.  The vows say for better or worst but I disagree it should state for your mental best or mental worst.  When your mental state is unstable you are liable to react in some very unusual ways so if nothing else I will say that leaving a situation for your mental good is sometimes best or I will say it was best for me. 

I am by no means a spokesperson for this new lifestyle change however I will say each morning is easier knowing that the love and respect I require is out in the universe.  Loving yourself more is sometimes better than loving someone else.  People may question how do you recover from mistrust, I say the hope of the unseen is a reason to believe that not all men are the same.   I can only learn from this experience in terms of knowing what I want and require.  Ultimately I refuse to accept less if it is not for my mental good.  

Free2bMe