Parenting Class/Mediation

Prior to the scheduled mediation, we were required to take a parenting class.  The class consisted of a video for an hour and half.  Most of the content was self explanatory but for those who insist on making this process difficult it definitely applied.  The video addressed topics such as what is appropriate to talk about with child(ren), not berating the other parent with child(ren), visitation, parenting plans, etc.

After the parenting class we were scheduled to for mediation.  The mediator acts the go between to establish and finalize the custody agreement.  In our case, we have joint custody of both children. I was awarded physical custody(custodial parent) as they reside with me. The argeement provides partial physical custody to the other party every other weekend(Friday to Sunday).   You can elect to do week days; its basically whatever schedule works for you situation.  In the next part a request for a weekday was noted.  Next, was scheduling the holidays based on even and odd years.   Thanksgiving and Christmas have specific schedules.  Each parent is also entitled to 2 weeks of vacation either consecutive or non-consecutive.

Now can you assume that this agreement will work without a hitch in an ideal world, yes!  Some of my oversights have caused some indigestion.  Unfortunately I did not stipulate a a pick-up and drop-off location so now out of the blue there is an issue with the residence.  I regret not adding anything content in the special terms section.  The agreement also stipulates behaviors that are expected from both parties.  What I find really disturbing with this new transition is the constant way in which the other parent is trying to control how much is reported back to the mom.   My oldest is constantly being instructed on what he should not tell and then we expect our kids to embrace honesty.   Do some parents really understand this negative behavior is harming his/her relationship with their child?  My child feels like he has to choose sides which is not something a 10 year old should have to deal with. 

In order to address issues with the agreement I must file a contempt order.    Bring on the Mylanta because this is sure to cause more indigestion!